How do relationships affect goals | Elika Tasker

Do the people closest to you pull you further away from your goals?

Do you find yourself constantly falling off the wagon with your health goals?

Are you frustrated with the lack of consistency and therefore success in this area?

Do you have the fear that it’s not possible to achieve your dreams?

“You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with!” Jim Rohn, motivation & transformational teacher once said. I’ve found this saying to be so true in my own experience & the more I work with clients who struggle with discipline in the area that’s sabotaging their goals the most, the more examples I find of this phenomenon.

I recently heard my client say, “I’m not willing to make a drastic change to my diet as I enjoy eating out!” Oh boy did I feel her pain and her fears. As a foodie, I long remember the thought that in order to have my body look a certain way, if that meant not eating the foods that I love, I’d just rather not have the body!

Some of my clients come to me saying they’re exercising every day, so they can eat what they want. In some of these cases they’re creating more stress through raised cortisol and thus creating the exact problem they are trying to remove; the body holds on to body fat. Plus what we know to be true, is that you can’t exercise your way out of a bad diet. In one hour a 160-pound person can burn 204 calories walking at 2 mph. A single slice of Domino’s pizza cut from a medium hand-tossed pie is between 200 and 290 calories.

So put simply, ask yourself, how successful are the 5 people that I spend the most time within the aspect of my health that I want to improve? If it’s clear that the majority of them are way beyond you in this aspect, this is the perfect ratio for growth for you in this area. I’ve always struggled to consider hiring a personal trainer that I felt didn’t have a great physical condition for this reason. I wanna feel confident that they have overcome the hurdles to not only get a great body but to maintain it. Therefore, it makes sense if you want to achieve success in any aspect of your life that you should be influenced by people whose success you can mirror in those areas.

Asking yourself, “where do those people hang out?” can be a great starting point. For my client, that led us to a brainstorm session of meetup groups focused around organic healthy eating, vegetarian groups & healthy restaurant meetups. It all became very exciting for her when she realised she was going to introduce a fantastic new element that was more aligned to the life she wanted to live now than the one she wasn’t happy with.

What areas of your life do you want to improve? Who is excellent in that area? Where do they hang out? To make a start and build long-lasting strategies that will help you eradicate that fear that you can never achieve your dreams, simply get in touch with me on my website and get the conversation started today.


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